5 Obvious Signs that You're on the Verge of Being Ghosted and 5 Tips on How to Deal With It

Let's face it. Being ghosted SUCKS. It's such a cowardly move for someone to make. I mean, is it THAT hard to tell someone that you're not interested in them anymore? You're just making them overthink! Ghosting people have negative effects on the mental health of the victims, you know (Well, I should know since I have personally experienced this and with someone I really connected with too).

So speaking from past experiences here are 5 obvious signs that you should know before you fall too hard down that road:

1. There's less to no effort on his replies.

When they're already using too many one-liners, emojis, or gifs to reply to your conversation, they're most likely transitioning into ignoring you completely already. It's just not a good sign in general.

2. Doesn't reply to you right away and only replies when it's too late to carry out a conversation.

When you send a text at 3:45 PM and he replies at 11:00 PM, they're most probably just going to say sorry that they took so long, reply to your last message, and shoot you a "Hey, it's getting late. I have an early day tomorrow. Goodnight." 😑 Most of the time it's not because they're busy. They're ignoring you, sis.

3. You are always the life of the conversation.

It's not normal when you always find yourself searching your head for a new conversation starter in order to keep both of you talking. If he/she does not show interest in engaging a new topic with you. he/she is probably not even into your current topic right now.

4. Always left on read.

We all know that being left on read by our significant other is INFURIATING especially when you're message shouldn't even be the end of your conversation. I learned this the hard way when I said I hate being left on read in the middle of an intense conversation/argument. He apologized for it, but guess what? He did it again and again until he's radio silent. 😶

5. He's viewing your stories on social media but doesn't bother to say hi or even compliment your selfies posted in your stories.

Some people might think this is too shallow of me but this is also a clear sign people. ESPECIALLY if he's not replying to your messages. Like hello! You can view my story but don't have the time to reply to my messages? This is the reason why I always block guys after they've ghosted me. Like b*tch please, you didn't want me so why the hell are you still stalking me?

Okay. So you've been ghosted by your girl/guy that you've already formed a connection with. It hurts like hell. What are the things you can do?

1. Find a hobby.

Find something you love doing like drawing, playing video games, writing (ahem ahem. Now we know why I got into this blog. Lol) or even cleaning! I can assure you cleaning can take your mind off of things temporarily. Take all the distractions you can get.

2. Find comfort in our friends.

Looking back, I'm really thankful for my friends who were there for me. My roomies that time even brought me ice-cream and food to soothe my heart (Shoutout to Arisa and Nadria. Love you 💕). They can't make the pain go away but sometimes having shoulders to cry on can ease some of it.

3. Self-care therapy.

Being ghosted can be a sign that you should put yourself first. SELF-CARE ISN'T SELFISH. There are many ways you can do this. For others, retail therapy or getting pampered at a spa or salon helps. Whatever works for you (but be sure you have the budget for it). There are budget-friendly alternatives to this also (Please tune in for that. That's going to be one of our future posts).

4. Stop stalking him.

I know you're still viewing his/her socials and stories too. Stop it. Just stop. He/She chose to lose you. Save your emotions and just stop.

5. Moving on ritual.

Sometimes having an official way to close that chapter of your life can grant you the closure you need. The closure he deprived you of. I have actually done this with my best friends and it was awesome. You're going to need a bonfire and all of the things you have that remind you of him. Throw everything in the fire and watch it be engulfed in flames. And as the things that you have from him transform to ashes, so will your memories with him.

I hope being ghosted doesn't discourage you from pursuing relationships in the future. The person who ghosted you was insensitive but it doesn't mean everybody is like that. Keep an open mind and an open heart but a cautious brain. On that note, see you guys in the next post. Please subscribe to our blog to have access to premium stuff.

Kisses,

Anne 💋