7 Possible Reasons on Why You’re Still Single and Have Not Found the One Yet

One day, you decided to go to a doctor. Then, you sit down at the desk contemplating hard about something. The doctor asks you, “so what seems to be the problem?”.

You breathe deeply and answer, “Doc, I believe I am ‘Unjowable’” (incapable of having a relationship) hahaha.

Independent fam! I wish we all have a love doctor who would magically prescribe "The One" and we will just claim the said prescription at the pharmacy (Anne, is it possible? hahaha). After watching romantic movies or reading novels, I know we can’t help but think, “Why am I still single?. Is there something wrong with me?”.

Now, how about we figure out the answer that will finally give us some peace of mind lol.

1.) Exposure

If Cinderella preferred to lock herself in the house and just talked to her mouse friends than going to the ball, she would not have met the prince and had a happily ever after. As an introvert, I know that being in your room is better than putting yourself out there. However, it reduces the chances for you to meet the one. Not unless prince charming magically introduces himself in your front door, but you are no Jasmine from Aladdin (hahaha). So in a sense, you do need to put on some glass slippers once in a while and go to the ball even if it’s uncomfortable.

2.) Wrong Country

Guilty! HAHAHA, you know what I am saying fam. Are you thinking Korean? American? British?. Well, your soul mate may probably be in another country, so you haven’t met or got to know him or her just yet. If only we can fly there now hahaha mine is someone from the UK *wink*.

3.) You're Afraid but You're Denying it

You are dreaming of when your prince or princess will come and when he/she finally arrives to save you from the dragon, you distance yourself. That is the problem, my friend. You sabotage yourself in finding the one by pushing people away because you always think ahead that it will go badly even when it has not yet begun (Are you Nostradamus? hahah).

You fear getting attached, hurt, and disappointed- I can’t blame you as these are probably from the roots of failed past relationships or a feared perception of love. However, I do believe it should not stop us from going out there and experiencing love as it is one of the best things in life. Don’t let the past or fear hold the key to your happiness in the future.

If you need a little boost in moving on from someone, I recommend reading one of our articles Dear, Lovesick Girl. (We Got you!)

https://alifestyleaffair.wixsite.com/home/post/dear-love-sick-girl

4.) The Expectations

I believe some of us tend to be extreme with our expectations (but still aim high guys and gals you deserve it hahaha). If you are the type to reject all twenty guys who asked you out just for the one reason that their face does not look “exactly“ like Channing Tatum, then chances are; you may never find one. Sadly, there is only one Channing in the world as we are all unique, so don’t judge too quickly and be open with the people you meet. You may be surprised that he might not look exactly like our Magic Mike Star but he actually is with his moves or personality hahaha or it's really possible that you are in the wrong continent so you can’t find one like him hahaha. (Tip: go to his birth country hahah)

5.) Addicted to Drama

Friend A has been dating for a long time now- she is frustrated and tired of being heartbroken and alone because it does not always work out in the end. She wants to have a serious relationship with a guy who will marry her and have a family. However, she ends up attracted to complicated boys who have no plans for the future, a womanizer, or does not believe in marriage because Friend A thinks she could change or fix them out of love like what she reads on Wattpad and see in drama movies lol. So can you figure out what the problem is?

If you want to avoid the unending cycle of wasting your time, energy, and tears for the wrong person; then better set your standards straight and look for a guy or girl that has the same relationship goals as you and is in it for the long term.

6.) Curiosity & in a Rush

In a world where having a relationship today looks like a fairytale as depicted everywhere on social media to the big screen, I would understand the impatience in wanting to be in a relationship. However, entering a relationship quickly for the sake of having one can cost your heart as the probability of ending the romance is quick too and you get disappointed. If you dream of the fairytale, then it all starts in finding the right prince or princess that you need time to get to know if he or she is really the one.

7.) God's Time

If you think all of the factors above are not the answer, then God is. God knows the perfect time and place, He is the author of your love story so trust Him and be patient. Know yourself first as there is always a reason for everything. You may be ready but your partner isn’t or probably God still wants you to focus on other things like a career. I believe that the greatest love is in God's perfect timing and place so don’t think negatively about being single and just make this time about you.

“Great things will come to those who wait”.

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Don’t forget your Glass Slippers,

Mz. Nina ✨